4 ideas on telling your family your eloping.
We want to help you tell your families because we know that it can be difficult. There are a few things you need to keep in mind when you're telling people you're eloping.
First, don't be afraid, to be honest with them. If they have a problem with it—and sometimes they will—tell them so and try to work it out. Second, don't let your family talk you into not doing something because they're worried about how it will affect them or their relationship with you. Third, don't let their opinions influence yours! You know what's best for you and your partner, and no one else does!
You can tell about your elopement whenever it feels right and good for the two of you. There are no guidelines or rules about when you should be telling about your elopement.
4 ideas to tell your families you are eloping:
Everyone deserves the wedding they want to have. But it's not always that easy to tell your family that you are going to elope. So how do tell about this to your family?
1.). Tell your family face-to-face that you're going to elope.
Telling your family face to face that you're eloping is one to consider because that way they can hear your excitement for your day and you can help them understand why you choose to elope instead of having a big and traditional wedding. You can also try Facetime.
Tell them that you want to elope and that it's important for you and your partner to be able to experience the wedding of your dreams without any obligations or restrictions.
If you are planning to tell the family after you have eloped, let them know what exactly happened when you got married on your terms rather than going through the traditional church ceremony (or whatever kind of ceremony you two decided on).
Many couples have found out that sharing their reasons on why to elope has helped their families to understand why they chose to elope.
A few reasons couples have used:
We want to build our future by not planning a huge party for one day.
We want the day just to be about us and do what we love on our day.
We don't want to spend the whole day entertaining our guest
We want to spend the day enjoying our relationship instead of worrying about making others happy.
We don't want the stress of planning a big wedding.
We want to say our vows in private
Our privacy is important to us.
It can sometimes take a couple of conversations with the family before they will truly understand your reason for eloping and not having a traditional wedding. Keep explaining and be patient.
2.) Write a Personalized Letter
Craft a heartfelt letter explaining your decision to elope and why it feels right for you as a couple. Include thoughtful details about what eloping means to you and how it reflects your love story. Mention any plans to include them in a post-elopement celebration or share pictures afterwards. Personalizing each letter allows you to convey your message sincerely and ensures your family feels valued, even if they’re not physically present on your wedding day.
3.) Gift a “Save-the-Date” for a Post-Elopement Celebration
If you plan to celebrate with family after your elopement, send out "Save-the-Date" cards for the event. Include a note explaining that you’ve decided to elope and the post-elopement celebration will be a chance for everyone to come together. This ensures your family knows they’re still part of your plans and gives them something to look forward to.
4.) Share a Countdown Calendar
Gift your family a small calendar that counts down to your elopement day. Add hints about your plans on each page, like photos of your destination or quotes about love and adventure. End the calendar with the big reveal, such as a note saying, “On this day, we’re tying the knot—just the two of us!” This creative method builds anticipation and excitement around your elopement.
Do you want to have a head-start on your special day in Iceland? Schedule a free consultation call below.
Step 1: Find a spot in the calendar and book the call. It will be on Google Meet.
Step 2: Check your email as I will reply within 24 hours.
Step 3: Bring your ideas and questions to the online call and let’s make a plan. These calls typically last 45 minutes, so book time into your calendar.
