How to tell your families your eloping
We want to help you tell your families because we know that it can be difficult. There are a few things you need to keep in mind when you're telling people you're eloping.
First, don't be afraid, to be honest with them. If they have a problem with it—and sometimes they will—tell them so and try to work it out. Second, don't let your family talk you into not doing something because they're worried about how it will affect them or their relationship with you. Third, don't let their opinions influence yours! You know what's best for you and your partner, and no one else does!
You can tell about your elopement whenever it feels right and good for the two of you. There are no guidelines or rules about when you should be telling about your elopement.
Ideas on how to tell your families you eloping.
Everyone deserves the wedding they want to have. But it's not always that easy to tell your family that you are going to elope. So how do tell about this to your family?
Tell your family face-to-face that you're going to elope.
Telling your family face to face that you're eloping is one to consider because that way they can hear your excitement for your day and you can help them understand why you choose to elope instead of having a big and traditional wedding. You can also try Facetime.
Tell them that you want to elope and that it's important for you and your partner to be able to experience the wedding of your dreams without any obligations or restrictions.
If you planning to tell the family after you have eloped, let them know what exactly happened when you got married on your terms rather than going through the traditional church ceremony (or whatever kind of ceremony you two decided on).
Share your reason, and the why.
Many couples have found out that sharing their reasons on why to elope has helped their families to understand why they chose to elope.
A few reasons couples have used:
We want to build our future by not planning a huge party for one day.
We want the day just to be about us and do what we love on our day.
We don't want to spend the whole day entertaining our guest
We want to spend the day enjoying our relationship instead of worrying about making others happy.
We don't want the stress of planning a big wedding.
We want to say our vows in private
Our privacy is important to us.
It can sometimes take a couple of conversations with the family before they will truly understand your reason to elope and not having a traditional wedding. Keep explaining and be patient.
Be ready for negative reactions
Even though weddings have been around for thousands of years, eloping is still a pretty new way of getting married and many older people do think that eloping is a highly selfish act. There can be some family drama, and there can be big emotions while telling you to elope, but there can also be joy and cheerful screams on hearing that someone is eloping.
Through a party to your family before or after eloping.
Having a reception after your elopement to your families and friends is a great way to celebrate your marriage and watch the photos and film together. and share photo albums with them. For example, you can also send out invitations to the party that says: "We are going to say I do and then party with you."
Remember that your day is your day. If you want to announce your elopement after you have eloped, go for it! At the end of the day, you two matter.
